It's another Family Finance Friday! Thank God it's Friday!
I know for some the thought of Friday is exciting but for some others it's physically and emotionally draining because of the chores that needs to be done. I've been there and I'm sure every woman understands what I'm talking about. Sometimes you just wish all those chores can get done without you lifting a finger.
Initially when I just got married I thought I could handle all the chores by myself and so I did this for some time until I couldn't any longer. I tried the maid idea but somehow it just didn't work for me until I resorted to a day nanny. She helps with taking care of the children while I was at work and to also attend to some chores. She, however, has to go home to her family at 7pm and she also didn't work weekends. Even though I was relieved of child care while I was at work, I still had to take care of some chores in the evening and also during the weekend.
This development hasn't made room for my children to be entirely free because there is always something for them to do. They've had to clear up after dinner, wash their plates, tidy their rooms, lay their beds, assist in the kitchen, wash some clothes, throw out the trash, help with groceries after shopping, etc. I still can't do without a nanny entirely because they're still too young to be left alone and also because there are some tasks I'll rather not have them do for now without supervision.
The picture below saying a child can operate some items once he or she can use a smartphone, however, got me thinking! I'm sure it will get any mother thinking. From age 2 the average child can operate a smartphone, isn't it? So many times they even know about the different games in it before their parents do. So how come we don't get them to do chores?
As I thought about this, I remember my own growing years; they weren't so free. After a particular period when my aunties weren't with us anymore we all got daily chores to do. I still remember my brother washing his clothes then at 5 years old. Even if it took him washing it 4 times before it was clean he was there washing and we all chatted while at it enjoying every bit of it. By the time I was 12 years old I could do everything in the house with almost no supervision.
Fast forward to today, it looks like giving a child too much to do and we have replaced training our children in that regard with the use of helps and nannies. I'm not saying it's bad to use them but I want to encourage us to all take time to be deliberate about getting the children involved with chores. Before we know it they'll be adults who need to do these things on their own and they will not have the experience of how to go about it. Proverbs 22:6 says "Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it". We aren't supposed to wait till they're adults. We should start now!
As we do this we not only get them to do some work but also create an appetite of hard work, resourcefulness, cleanliness, etc in them. (Proverbs 18:9, 2 Thessalonians 3:10) This process also saves you the heartache of helps and nannies and helps the family save some money. The savings might look insignificant initially but I'm sure you'll agree with me that with time as the children grow almost all the chores can be handled by them and there might be no need for hiring anyone to assist in the home.
I know for some people the task to give a child might be an issue. You want to be sure you aren't expecting too much or too little from your child. To cover for this I have attached a picture of age appropriate chores for children. It might not be exhaustive but you can use it to initiate the process and then modify as you go along.
Make this weekend a different one by involving your children with some chores. It's interesting that children even don't mind to do many of these things but just don't get the opportunity to do it because we are too busy to teach. I'll like to hear your thoughts and experiences on this.
Do have a restful weekend and remember to pamper yourself because you deserve it!
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